Teddi is a 44 year old mother of two who came to me in May of 2014 with a drive and determination to make a change in her fitness before making a major life change (moving to Iowa). Here’s her story after working with me for a month.
Four weeks ago today, I headed to Iron Works Gym in Bellevue for my first workout with personal trainer Ty Roberts. I had met with Ty a few days beforehand, and was excited to finally start losing weight and getting fit. Ty was easy to talk to, very understanding and down-to-earth. I was sure he had the knowledge and enthusiasm to keep me motivated and help me reach my goals.
So that morning, I was ready to go. Physically ready. I was not, however, prepared for the onslaught of self-doubt that hit me as I got dressed and drove to the gym. The negative thoughts kept battering me on the way there. “You’re too old.” (I’m 44.) “You’re too far gone.” (I’m at least 40 lbs overweight.) “You’ll quit.” (I’ve tried several times to start working out and quit each time after a few weeks. There was bootcamp – I made it through two grueling sessions but it was too intense for a beginner like me and I ended up with bursitis in my knee and a limp that lasted for several weeks. There were the pilates routines I did at home or the occasional swim or yoga class at the YMCA. But I soon got bored or skipped days until weeks passed.) As upsetting as all of these thoughts were, I just kept driving to the gym. When I got there, I told Ty what was going on and he congratulated me on showing up. (Seriously.) We started walking on side-by-side treadmills and talking. I relaxed immediately. For the next 50 minutes, Ty walked me through my personalized workout. I did squats, I lifted weights, I did resistance exercises. It was hard work but, as I soon found out, nothing that I couldn’t handle. In fact, though a bit sore, I felt invigorated and empowered.
For the past couple of years, I have tried to lose the weight I gained after having my two children mostly through diet. I went gluten-free, cut way down on sugar and almost all dairy. I initially lost six lbs but it soon came back. In fact, over the past year, my weight has been increasing to my highest ever. It’s been extremely frustrating, especially since I have always been a thin person. Trying to lose the weight strictly through diet was not only ineffective for me, but it made me feel deprived and like a failure most of the time, as it just served to remind me that I was overweight. I have felt uncomfortable in my own skin for the past seven years, and that’s a terrible feeling.
What I’m finding now, four weeks into working out with Ty, is that I need to build muscle in order to burn calories and fat. I need to workout to get my once-high/now-low metabolism going. I need to be guided and challenged. I need to be held accountable. I needed to run out of excuses. Yes, I’m middle-aged. Yes, it’s true that I’m not the “gym type” and I don’t care for most aerobic activities. Yes, I’m very busy (I have a husband, two kids and my own full-time business).
But I’m determined now. I want to be in the best shape of my life at 44 and see how far I can go. I am starting to see changes in how I look, but more importantly, in just four weeks, there are so many changes in how I feel.
Unlike with just dieting alone, I don’t feel deprived or like a failure – I feel energized and strong and capable. I’m sleeping better, have far fewer headaches, and my focus are improving. The old excuses don’t hold their validity. I have a trainer who makes working out interesting and effective, one who checks in with me every couple of days and wants to see me succeed as much as I want it myself. I’m still just as busy, perhaps even busier than when I started, but here’s the thing I realized. There are 168 hours in a week. Shouldn’t at least 3 of those be dedicated to me? To getting healthy? To be stronger?
I told Ty when I met him that even though I’m in my mid-40’s, I felt like someone in their mid-50’s. That has already changed. I now feel my age again, and soon, may even feel like someone much younger!